Sex is a two-way treat.
I wish I’d come up with that saying, but it was Franklin P. Jones, a Philadelphia reporter and humorist. A two-way treat is exactly what sex should be, but unfortunately, sometimes the lack of information people have about maintaining healthy sex lives ruins that treat.
My love and interest in sexual health education started at a very young age. In the public school that I went to, we watched a video about our changing bodies in 5th grade and then one about sex in 7th grade. I am a naturally curious person and had about a thousand more questions after the video was over. Unfortunately, I quickly realized that most adults get uncomfortable when kids start asking sex questions. I had to look up answers to all of my questions on my own.
Hindsight being 20/20, I’m glad I didn’t stumble on anything that would have scarred me for life. For the next two years, I read everything that I could get my hands on, and by the time my parents got around to trying to give me “the talk,” I knew just about everything I needed to.
I’ve always looked forward to the future. As the weird girl who was always giving her friends pamphlets on STDs, I envisioned a future full of mature conversations about sexual health and education without everyone giggling every time I say “frenulum.” I’m not saying that I don’t have a mature and lovely group of friends now. It’s just still hard to have those conversations.
Thankfully, that’s where this blog comes in! My goal for this blog is to have open and honest conversations about sex. Many of us with public school educations, in Texas and otherwise, were taught the abstinence-only-version sexual health education. The problem is that having abstinence only as the foundation for your sexual knowledge leaves a lot of holes in that foundation.
I’m not going to pretend that I know everything about sex. I’m not a sexologist. I have no degrees or certificates in the subject. What I am is a girl who cares very much about empowering people and spreading correct information. I want to help lift the veil from sex and separate some of the myths from facts. Sex is natural and healthy, and people shouldn’t be ashamed of their bodies. Promoting open and honest conversations about sex helps combat some of the stigmas surrounding sex, especially for women and people of color.
The topics discussed will be drawn from my own life and the lives of those around me. I’ll also feature a segment called “Just the Tip” that addresses questions that people send in. I’m using Ask.fm for the questions so that those who wish to remain anonymous can do that and still have their questions answered. If you’d like to submit a question to be answered on my blog, you can do so at http://ask.fm/starjustthetip.